Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relationships. Show all posts

Friday, June 13, 2014

This is about "The Friend Zone".

500 Days of Summer (2009) - Jen
He claims to have been friend zoned, but he's actually claiming himself to be a self-entitled misogynist. This isn't to say that his experience is invalid, it's just that his perspective happens to be very problematic.

Everyone has experienced The Friend Zone at one point or another. You attempt to show someone your wish of pursuing something more. That person then reminds you of how good a friend - a brother - a sister - you are, and just like that you find yourself flailing about The Friend Zone.

The Friend Zone is real, and so are the feelings behind them. No one likes rejection, and it’s especially painful when you believe your presence would greatly benefit the significant other. 

The problem with The Friend Zone is while it can be applied to all types of love regardless of sexuality or gender, it only seems to be valid when applied to heterosexual relationships in which the male is “friend-zoned” by the female. 

Friday, April 4, 2014

This is about Tinder and online dating.

It's connected to Facebook so…yeah.
Yes, I downloaded the Tinder app.

I was waist deep in burger and fries around midnight with a friend.

She told me she was 100% single.

Not only did she coin the most brilliant, accurate phrase of all time ("I'm 100% single") but she showed me an interesting article written by a black woman who downloaded Tinder.

Wednesday, March 26, 2014

This is what true love looks like.

yinmeetsyang
 tumblr couples are the worst. *trips into feelings*
I know what true love is.

Really, I do though.

I don't know what it feels like - but I do know what it looks like.

I found out during literally a 3 minute conversation with a classmate that I ran into at the gym.

Monday, March 17, 2014

This is a letter to dark skin girls.

 Israel.Ysrayl, a Jim Crow restroom sign.
Just to put this issue in an absolute perspective.
I'm writing this after seeing a back and forth debate on Tumblr about black girls and colorism. Dark girls expressed their experiences, light girls expressed their experiences, and both experiences were weighed and measured and categorized. Some people put one problem over another while others put both problems on the same level.

I'm writing this because I believe my experiences have given me a pretty clear view of this issue.

I'll begin this, as always, with a disclaimer.

Saturday, January 11, 2014

This is about that black guy who loves QOTSA…and interracial dating.

black white dating, http://www.flickr.com/photos/49326187@N07/
My friends and family have teased me saying "Watch - you'll end up with a white man."

Despite knowing my anxiety-borderline-fear of dealing with all the pitfalls of interracial dating (opposition, ignorance, festishism, discrimination, just to name a few), they say this more because of my tastes.

Sunday, January 5, 2014

This is about triflin dudes and their ridiculous, hypocritical, and contradicting standards for women.


Once you push past the ridiculous spelling and emojis and judgment of this person based solely on grammatical errors and misusing the purposes of a full keyboard, you can better see the main argument.

What this man means to say is that all females generate an excessive amount of problems and false attitudes, yet he will tolerate them for the female he has decided to be in a relationship with. As for other females behaving this way, he will ignore them and/or treat them with cold hostility so they understand he will not be entertaining such behavior.

Tuesday, July 2, 2013

This is about being a virgin.

Do people still know what virgin means?

Do people know that you can't "catch" virgin?

Did urban dictionary mix up the definition for virgin with "cannibal

Friday, June 7, 2013

This is a note to that girl who "doesn't like girls".

I apologize in advance because I even have some friends who say this, but I really need to get this topic off my chest.

Ladies, can we stop saying "I don't like girls"? 

I find this statement to actually be an attitude problem, because when you think about it